The Highlight of 2015
I knew almost immediately what I was going to say. When it came to my turn, I looked around my circle of highschool friends who had united for New Year’s Eve. “My highlight of 2015 is… coming out.”
Some knew. Only a few didn’t.
“You-.. You were coming out!? You came out!?” the straight boy beside me blurted out. “Then why did I sit myself here!?”
There was little hesitation that that was the highlight of my 2015. It opened the floodgates to a lot of critical self-evaluation and understanding, which ultimately explained why I acted a certain way and had built walls where there shouldn’t be.
Because of that, I grew a lot in 2015. I feel like it was the year I recalibrated to the world with my “new” identity – I reevaluated where and how I fit, my social groups, and what I wanted in life. Most importantly, I feel I had less to hide, and this ultimately gave me more confidence. I no longer had to be scared that “someone would get too close” and “find out”. And I wasn’t just scared of them knowing the truth – I was equally, if not more, scared of having to confront the truth about myself with them.
In 2015 I also:
- Traveled alone and visited New York city, both for the first time.
- Had our first family vacation in a long time to LA.
- Went on a legitimate date (although it didn’t end well! It made for a good story.)
- Went to an LGBT professional networking event.
Coming out and all its consequential experiences overshadowed any vacation I took. Not much progress was made with my career, and understandably so – I essentially put my career (and everything else) on hold this year to deal with coming out. No regrets.
So what does 2016 hold in store for me?
I see it as being a year of more growth. 2015 set the foundation for my identity and this year will involve further refining myself and building myself in that direction.
I will also grow career-wise. I’m planning on sending in my two-weeks notice mid-February, ensuring that I am unemployed March and April. The first month I’ll spend doing whatever I want, may it be travelling, bumming around, with only one goal: to enjoy my freedom. April I’ll be recuperating from whatever I did in March and expanding my professional network with informational interviews and setting the stage for when I complete my certificate after August. From May to August, I’ll be taking a fast-track course in big data analytics.
This is the plan for 2016.
These are the goals:
- End the year employed at a medium/big company.
- Make waves with my nonprofit’s women leadership division. Get involved with a tech/data themed women’s leadership initiative.
- Be in a relationship with someone.
- And all the while, be happy.
My New Year’s resolutions are more dependent on discipline: Not saying “I don’t know” unless I truly don’t know (and even then, I should Google it because it’s 2015 and I have unlimited data); Speaking with more authority in my voice; Not being late because tardiness is selfish and; Cutting out toxic people in my life.
I’m optimistic about 2016. Let’s do it.
[Currently Listening to: Ingrid Michaelson – Everyone is Gonna Love Me Now]